Finding Clarity: 3 Hidden Truths About You Need to Know

Sometimes life just feels… off. You’re going through the motions, doing what needs to be done – working, running errands, cooking, going to the gym, calling your mom back. On paper, you’re keeping up with everything, but there’s this low-key feeling that something’s not quite right.

You’re not exactly unhappy, but you’re definitely not lit up either. And every now and then, you catch yourself thinking, “Is this really it?”

You might be hoping for some kind of sign or lightbulb moment to show you what to do next. You want to feel clear and confident about your path, but instead, you feel stuck in the in-between.

If that sounds familiar, I’m here to tell you that you’re not alone.

The truth is… Finding clarity isn’t always about thinking harder or making yet another a pros-and-cons list. In fact, the real reasons you feel stuck might be the ones you’d never expect or even think to explore.

This post unpacks three surprising truths about clarity that most people overlook—truths that explain why you might be feeling stuck, and what to do about it. If you’ve been overanalyzing or feeling unsure of your next step, this might be the perspective shift you didn’t know you needed.

Let’s get to it!

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Clarity doesn’t come from thinking, it comes from movement

Ever notice how the big “What am I doing with my life?” spiral usually shows up when you haven’t actually tried anything new in months? This dawned on me one day when I was having one of those dramatic “life purpose” meltdowns.

You know the one I’m talking about. When you suddenly feel like time is slipping through your fingers (thanks autopilot), everyone else has it figured out (thanks Instagram), and you’re somehow behind on a race you didn’t even know you were running (if you don’t even know what the race is or why you’re running it then welcome to the club.. see what I did there 😉).

But here’s the thing: clarity isn’t hiding in some magical corner of your mind, waiting for you to think your way to it. Clarity shows up when you move. When you stop waiting for the perfect plan and just take the next imperfect step.

You don’t unlock clarity by overthinking every little thing. You get it by gathering evidence. Saying yes to something you might normally say no to. Testing a curiosity. Switching up your routine. Talking to someone doing work you admire.

Real clarity comes along when you test things in the real world. You try. You fail. You try again. You notice what lights you up and what leaves you feeling empty. That’s how you discover what’s right for you.

The “wrong” moves help too. Every dud project, awkward conversation, painful job, or boring class narrows the field. That is self-discovery. That is personal growth.

Try this: “Clarity in Motion” Exercise

For the next 7 days, do one small thing outside your usual routine that you’re curious about. It could be as simple as taking a different route to work, signing up for a workshop, starting a new project, or reaching out to someone you’ve been wanting to connect with. Each night, jot down what felt exciting or draining about it. By the end of the week, you’ll start to see patterns emerge—tiny breadcrumbs pointing you toward what matters to you. These are worth exploring!

If you need a little extra guidance, The Clarity Journal can help you get clear step by step! Grab your free copy here.

What you want isn’t buried deep inside, it’s just been drowned out

You don’t have a clarity problem. You have a noise problem. And I don’t mean noise like the extra loud and annoying neighbour early on a Saturday morning noise, I mean mind noise.

The truth is, what you want isn’t buried deep down somewhere, it’s just been drowned out. By well-meaning advice. By other people’s expectations. By your endless to-do list and your fear of disappointing anyone at all. You’ve been letting the world talk over your inner voice for so long you can’t hear it when it speaks.

You already know more than you think. But the signal gets all scrambled by the “shoulds,” the guilt, the people-pleasing, the fear of being seen wanting something different. So you stay feeling stuck, spinning in indecision, thinking you don’t know what you want—when really, you’ve just never given yourself permission to want it.

So let me ask you this, what if clarity in life isn’t some hidden treasure you have to go on a long soul-searching quest to find? What if it’s been there all along, but you’ve been too busy, too distracted, or too polite to listen?

You don’t need more time to think. You need more room to listen.

Turn down the noise. Say no more often. Get quiet on purpose. Because finding clarity isn’t about pushing harder. It’s about figuring out what’s not yours.

Clarity in life shows up when you stop trying to be everything to everyone and start tuning in to what makes you feel most, well, you.

Try this: “The No-Filter Wants” Practice

Find a quiet spot where no one can interrupt you—even five minutes is enough. Put your phone away. Breathe.
Grab your journal and write this prompt at the top:
“If I didn’t feel guilty, afraid, or responsible for anyone else’s reaction… what would I let myself want?”
Then just start writing. No rules. No censoring. No edits. Don’t worry about logic or possibility. Let it be messy, real, even contradictory. Just let whatever wants to come out find space on the page. Don’t worry, no one is going to see this but you.
When you’re done, circle anything that surprises you or really excites you. That’s your inner voice breaking through the noise and leaving valuable clues!

Clarity doesn’t shout. It whispers. You just have to give it space to speak.

The Clarity Journal is designed to help you quiet the noise and tune into what truly matters! Grab your free copy here.

Confusion could be your shield in disguise

Confusion isn’t always confusion. I know that’s kind of confusing (lol), but hear me out. Sometimes, it’s a clever disguise—a buffer between you and the bold truth you’re not quite ready to face. What if feeling unsure, spinning in circles, and second-guessing every choice wasn’t about not knowing what you want? What if it’s about subconsciously avoiding the truth, because owning it would mean doing something with it?

And honestly, that’s terrifying. Because clarity has consequences. If you admit what you truly want, you might have to leave the job. End the relationship. Launch the thing. Step into something bigger, scarier, and wildly uncertain. So instead, you keep shrinking yourself to fit your comfort zone, convincing yourself you’re stuck, unsure, torn.

What if you weren’t lacking direction, but dodging it instead? By the way, this is completely normal, because as humans we’re naturally wired for survival. In this case, confusion could just be a brilliant, subconscious strategy to delay the discomfort of change.

So maybe feeling stuck, second-guessing everything, and looping endlessly through pros and cons, isn’t about indecision. Maybe it’s about protection. Maybe deep down, you already know. You just haven’t given yourself permission to act on it yet.

Try this: The “What’s Your Confusion Protecting You From?” Journal

Grab a journal and answer these questions honestly:

What decision, goal, or next step do I keep going in circles about?
If I did know exactly what I wanted — what would that mean I’d have to face, risk, or change?
What might feel scary, hard, or vulnerable about moving forward?
How might staying where I am be helping me avoid discomfort – like failure, judgment, or letting people down?

Take your time. No pressure to fix anything right away. Once you can name what you’re protecting yourself from, you can start working with it instead of letting it silently run the show.

Getting clear on what you want can change everything. When you have more clarity, it’s easier to make decisions and take steps that really move you forward. Without it, it’s easy to feel stuck or unsure about which way to go in life.

It’s not about being perfect or having all the answers overnight. It’s about being honest with yourself and taking small steps even when it feels uncertain. It’s something you build gradually by paying attention to what feels right and what doesn’t. Not for anyone else, but for you.

If you’re ready to start, grab a journal and try the exercises in this post and let me know how it goes in the comments below. As always, I would love to hear from you!

If you haven’t already, don’t forget to download your FREE copy of The Clarity Journal here. This is one of my favourite journalling tools when I’m feeling stuck in a rut or just overwhelmed with life!

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